Begging for forgiveness instead of asking for permission

Brief thoughts on why I think this saying never sat right with me.

My family has undocumented people. Latino folks make up the biggest percentage of inmates in the California state prison system. We don’t really have access to forgiveness. And for the former group of folks, permission isn’t even on the table!

I wonder if, in the past, when I would scoff at the idea of me being having potential for this or that, if this was part of the why. Good leaders or awesome designers don’t give a fuck about asking permission.

There are additionally things that are culturally foreign or unattractive too. I’m talking about rural, indigenous folks (the stock of people I come from). Things like self-destructive humility, or extreme distaste for bragging, that are seen as virtues. Things that often follow people who have been marginalized and shoved to the bottom of the social ladder for generations. If you are raised in a system like this, you self-sabotage many qualities that Americans look for in leaders. Or very traditional, conservative family members might do it for you. Of course especially if you’re a woman. I don’t agree with these things, but it takes a long time and effort to get rid of stuff that’s been with you since you were born, and continues on in your family.

In addition to the things that American tech culture throws on women, mothers, and minorities.